Defining love is as difficult as defining happiness or beauty. For instance, try and remember a situation when you were extremely happy. If at that moment someone had asked you to define your feelings, you may have been at loss of words.
What do people in love say about it? Have you ever been truly in love yourself? If yes, what do you say about it? Do you really think you need to say anything at all about it? If not, fall in love and then you will know why this feeling is indescribable. However, you’ve got to understand how it works if you want to get it to work out right for you.
Love Isn’t A Business Deal
One aspect of love to understand is to avoid having it be all that formal. That is, it can’t just be something that you can get into for some kind of personal benefit.Love should just happen as inevitably and as obviously as the sunrise or the sunset. If the love happens for any particular reason, no matter how fair and noble the reason may sound, it is not love; it is a deal. If you fall in love with someone because they carry Armani on their body and unlimited dollars in their wallet, you know very well that it is not love. It is an act of persuasion.
In this case, you are not sweet-talking someone deceptively to fall for you. You are indeed convincingly making yourself believe that it is love, while it is only giving in to the guarantee of material convenience. If you fall in love with someone because they look beautiful, it again is not love. It is your mind convincing your heart away from its true feelings.
Consider Beauty The Right Way
Next, you have to adjust your expectations for love. This means understanding how beauty can really change after a while. When in true love, the meaning of beauty changes completely for you. Everything becomes more beautiful. The world where you were hardly getting by seemingly becomes a better place to live in. This is but one outcome of love; love which is perhaps just happiness remodeled.
You Can Also Stay In Love
When you fall in love for a reason, you need reasons to stay in it too. When you start a relationship for all the wrong reasons, you cannot always keep it going in the right direction. When the things are not going right, we look for reasons that made things go wrong. We don’t even realize that the reason for love is the reason for it not going right.Unfortunately, when we look for reasons, we seldom look inside, into our souls. We are always looking for reasons in the other person. That is what paves way to even more disaster in the relationship. In the end, we are able to convince ourselves that it is the other person who is the reason for this state of the relationship.
You must be certain when you fall in love that you know what you are doing about it. Love is not something that has to be taken lightly. It is something that you must be extremely careful with so you’ll have a better time with being with someone who will really care for you and understand what you need..